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Then it’s much easier to have good relationships. Elon Musk is another example, where the majority of coverage I see of him his negative, and sometimes he writes kinda dumb tweets, but he gives me hope for humanity and I don’t care about the rest of the stuff. Had I seen the news coverage first, I’d still have been mindblown by seeing the rockets land and changed my attitude towards him. New friends occasionally come to me saying they read a review of HPMOR saying Harry’s rude and obnoxious, and I respond “you need to learn that’s not the most important aspect of a person’s character”. He interpreted this as evidence that women evolved to prefer good providers who could support their families by acquiring and defending resources I respect his data enormously, but disagree with his interpretation. I’m new to evolutionary psychology but after reading this book this science sure tops my list of interests.

While he says that kin selection theory explains altruism toward blood relatives, it cannot jump the blood line to non-kin. Rather, he argues that women select for kindness. Waitresses know more about human kindness than most moral philosophers he asserts, as if quid pro quo tipping for service or making an impression on attractive waitresses represents the full domain of kindness. This is one of the most important books I have read. The concept of sexual selection was proposed by Darwin himself, and he spent more time on it than on natural selection.

Within such framework, brain becomes an increasingly large mutational target, yielding increasingly complex behaviors that signal genetic health and correlate via g factor. If you want to know how sexual selection produces diversity and, in the case of the human species, our consciousness… For me it was the final piece in the puzzle for understanding human behaviour… And NO don’t tell me Freud already said something about the importance for sexuality for human behaviour…

You’re not being measured against all men on Earth, just those you’re in relative proximity to. Having wealth is nothing if you don’t have material proof of attractive traits. Remember that you are alive today because every one of your ancestors was able to find a partner and start a family.

“But this is just a guide—for it to work, you must do the work. You didn’t choose which genes you inherited or what family you grew up in. But from this day forward, you must take personal responsibility for your life, your choices, your habits, your traits, your mate value, and your attractiveness to women.” page 20.

I recommend listening to Dr. Diana Fleischman’s talk on rationally speaking for a transhumanist perspective. As a note, I wouldn’t have upvoted this post normally, but I didn’t think it deserved to be negative so I gave it one. I’m pretty sure there’s a bunch of people who vote partly based on the current score, so if you remove all the downvotes, you probably remove a bunch of the upvotes too. As I see it, we’ve had this success partly because many of us have been scrupulous about not being needlessly offensive. (Bostrom is a good example here.) The rationalist brand is already weak (e.g. search Twitter for relevant terms), and if LessWrong had actually tried to have forthright discussions of every interesting topic, that might well have been fatal.

We talk about the traits that women look for in men. We talk about what you should look for in a woman depending on your relationship goals. We talk about how even the place you live can affect your dating chances and some things you can do to change that. If you’re a single guy, a lot of great information for you.

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Are you having difficulties with romantic relationships in the 21st century? Do you wish you had someone like an older sibling around who could to teach you about the intricacies involved in dating? Or are you simply looking for an entertaining book? Well look no further because Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller have teamed up to help you tackle all your relationship related questions by using a potent mixture of science and humour. In terms of the future we are going to see gradual theoretical developments. The more important thing is that ev psych is going to spread globally and enter other countries.

I don’t expect the dating world to get any better, but I don’t think LW should get involved in that fight. There are many topics we would be more effective at solving and that don’t have negative side effects. Actually BBPeopleMeet improving your lives and the lives of others requires discussing what is true. Virtue signalling in my description of dating will just leave both me and my potential partners would just be lonely more often.

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Finally, google searches for rationality/less wrong/slate star codex are in a gradual decline, so the value of self-censorship to achieve mainstream adoption is lower. The barriers to mainstream adoption probably are not the dating stuff. I’m not super confident in my ability to assess what the quantities are, but I’m extremely confident that they matter. It seems to me like your post could be written in exactly the same way if the “wokeness” phenomenon was “half as large” (fewer people care about, or they don’t care as strongly). But this can’t be good – any sensible opinion on this issue has to depend on the scope of the problem, unless you think it’s in principle inconceivable for the wokeness phenomenon to be prevalent enough to matter.

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So in these areas the book gives you more of a general direction but it is still up to you to find the resources that provide more information on what will work for you. The use of the word “mate” throughout gets really weird after a while but this is obviously minor. Recently, I walked into a bookstore and spotted a new book by Tucker Max, and I literally scoffed as I was thinking–Wow, Tucker’s still around–But I was startled when I read the back of this book. My curiosity was insane to the point where I had to buy right away. When assessing a mating market, pay attention to the quality of men who are your rivals as well as the women present there.

So the arguments to simplicity and heuristics are powerful. My reasoning would have been worse without those “buzzwords”. I recognize that my comment was not kind toward you, and I’m sorry for that.

Miller has created a timeless classic that is even more relevant today than it was in 2001. If you like intelligent books and like science and academia you will definitely love this one. As someone with more than a passing interest in evolutionary psychology, this was highly enjoyable. Even though much of the author’s conclusions are tentative, I find they still merit my continued consideration, and if someone can motivate me to reconsider axiomatic propositions then they’ve succeeded in writing something of durable worth. It´s so funny that we eliminated natural selection and that now everybody is lying even more, because an ape or primitive human couldn´t fake smartness, success, etc. or get detailed tutorials by nasty pick-up artists and immoral personal coaches. No wonder women had to develop defense mechanisms against so much deception, falsehood, and virility.

Most people don’t know many others who have great relationships, and even those that seem to have great relationships aren’t as open about what they do as athletes are about their training regime, for example. Fiction could be another source, but what people are watching are shows like Game of Thrones which isn’t really full of healthy marriage advice. This could be misinterpreted as saying that mating markets are no longer relevant, which is false. I believe you mean that the apps have collapsed whole cities into one big mating market. For other readers, still think about the mating market when choosing a city to live in.